The key points of the Law of Attraction can be summed up like this:
- Build a clear vision of what you want.
- Keep an abundance mindset, so you are open to new opportunities.
- Maintain a feeling of gratitude and faith, so you attract all the people and events you need to get where you’re going.
- Go about your life, guided by your intuition, until you reach your visualized goal.
This always works when you focus on things you can actually control.
You can control your vision of what you want. Things will happen throughout your day to cloud your vision, but you can always refocus and rebuild it when you notice this happening. You can write it down and carry it with you. You can rewrite it whenever you need to refresh it and breathe some new life into it.
You can control your mindset. Staying focused on the fact that there’s always another opportunity if this one falls through. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak.
You can choose to focus on gratitude. And this is the real key – at the emotional level – for making the Law of Attraction work. You actually operate at an entirely different frequency when you are feeling gratitude instead of neediness. Your whole ‘vibe’ changes when you choose to focus on the things that make you feel gratitude, instead of focusing on perceived lack.
And that’s where most people lose it.
All the way back at step one: building a clear vision of what you want.
Wanting something keeps all the other steps well within your control.
But… instead, many people frame it as a *need*.
“This is what I need to happen.”
“I need more money.”
“I need so-and-so to like me.”
“I need to get X so I can get Y.”
“I need, I need, I need.”
And everything falls apart after that, because…
Need shoves everything outside of their control.
They can’t maintain an abundance mindset if they *need* a particular outcome. They’ve narrowed down their acceptable possibles to *one* time, in *one* place, or with *one* person.
“One” is NOT abundance.
It’s literally just *one* thing: the scarcest of scarcities. And if they lose that one thing they’ve failed.
What does this neediness do to their emotional state? Can they feel gratitude when they’ve backed themselves into a corner of all-or-nothing scarcity?
Maybe. It might be possible.
What’s more likely to happen is this: Instead of going about their day feeling gratitude and seeing abundance and following their intuition, they develop a scarcity-driven tunnel vision towards the *one* thing they think they *need*, and they end up feeling a desperate neediness for that one thing.
Their ‘vibe’ changes from attractive gratitude to…
If their goal requires other people to participate… other people aren’t going to be attracted by that energy. They’ll feel that neediness coming a mile away and run for the hills.
You can try it yourself, right now, if you want to feel the difference between want and need.
If you say to yourself “I need more money,” and then wait a bit and really allow yourself to feel the emotions that this statement of need brings up in your gut, you might start to get an idea of what I mean.
It’s not a pleasant feeling.
But now, try “want” instead.
Try saying to yourself “I *want* more money.”
It’s a much lighter feeling.
There’s no desperation or scarcity attached to it.
It doesn’t make you feel like you’re lacking money. It’s just an honest acknowledgement that you’d like to have more.
And it’s a bit more motivating because it doesn’t restrict your thinking and feeling.
That’s the energy that will attract what you want.
It allows your imagination to begin looking for more opportunities in a relaxed and creative way, instead of frantically grasping at whatever passes by like a drowning person pulling his rescuer down with him.
Feeling the difference between “wanting” something and “needing” something might even open up your mind to how this can be applied in every area of your life.
Wanting something puts your imagination back in your control.
Needing something puts everything outside of your control. It narrows your possibilities and traps you in a scarcity mindset.
It’s such a subtle difference, but the difference in quality of the feeling… the energy… the ‘vibe’… is the difference between success and failure in everything.
One attracts more to you… but the other drives everything away.