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Happiness Is The Way, Not The Destination

Yeah, it’s a cheesy cliché.

It’s still true, though.

The problem with clichés is that they get repeated so often that people forget the deeper meaning behind them.

It’s like remembering the lyrics to a song, but forgetting the melody.

The deeper feeling behind the words gets lost.

The universal truth to which the words were pointing is forgotten and only the shallow understanding of the words themselves remain.

So it helps to take some time every now and then to remind ourselves of the simple truths we’ve forgotten.

Happiness is NOT a goal.

It’s a mood.

And your mood is something you choose.

You choose your mood by choosing what you focus on.

Happiness is NOT something you need to earn.

Working hard and achieving goals provides satisfaction, not happiness.

Changing the circumstances in your life that stress you out, hold you down, or make you feel overwhelmed and frustrated… provides satisfaction, not happiness.

Satisfaction is a temporary feeling.

Satisfaction fades shortly after a goal is achieved.

Happiness is the permanent, underlying mood that you experience along the way, throughout the endless cycle of feeling dissatisfied, aiming for a goal, and then feeling the satisfaction of achieving that goal…

If you choose to do so.

And it’s a choice I highly recommend.

Because when you choose to be happy instead of morose, you perform better. You reach your goals faster because you can think clearly and act effectively.

When you choose to be grateful instead of needy, you make it easier for the people around you to open up and connect with you. You actually help others to make the choice to be happy by choosing it yourself.

And making this choice – choosing to focus on the things that make you feel gratitude and happiness – isn’t something you need to achieve…

Happiness is just a choice that you can make right now so that you can achieve everything else a whole lot easier.

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Stop Waiting For Happiness

So many people these days treat happiness as a goal:

  • “I’ll be happy once I get that job.”
  • “I’ll be happy once I get that car.”
  • “I’ll be happy once I get that house.”

This is a dangerous habit to develop because happiness isn’t something you earn by achieving goals.

Achieving goals rarely makes people happy…

…but being happy helps people achieve their goals.

Happiness is just a mood, and your moods are nothing more than what you choose to focus on at any given moment.

So treating happiness like a goal, putting external conditions upon when you can or cannot feel happy, is like telling yourself you have to earn the right to breathe.

You wouldn’t hold your breath until you earned to right to take another breath, or until you felt you deserved to take another breath, or because you thought it was selfish to take another breath…

You just keep breathing because it’s something you need to do to keep living.

Happiness isn’t much different in that regard.

No matter what’s going on in your life, there will always be negatives and positives. Happy people simply focus on the positives so they can keep moving forward with less stress, less anxiety, more passion, and more energy.

Happiness is just an ongoing choice – a habit. And it’s a habit that improves your health, keeps you motivated even during challenging times in your life, and even improves the lives of people around you.

Goals come and go. Your life and the world around you are always changing. Choosing to enjoy being alive and being a part of the process isn’t something you need to earn.

It’s your birthright.

So instead of placing happiness on the other side of your goals, develop the habit of being happy so you can reach your goals easier.

Choose to be happy, now, so you can enjoy the journey.

And if you feel like you need a boost in developing the habit of happiness, this subliminal session will help: Contagious Happiness Subliminal CD