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New Year’s Resolutions That Are Doomed To Fail

2019 is right around the corner.

That means, come Tuesday morning, most people are going to be working through their hangover to get started on the Resolutions they’ve set for themselves.

Which, in most cases, will mean dropping X number of pounds.

They’ll start a diet they hate, hit the gym a couple times, and end the week by binge-watching Netflix while eating junk food.

Why?

Because there’s nothing motivational about goals you can’t control.

And losing a specific amount of weight isn’t something we can control.

So, if you really want to get in shape, what goal *should* you set for yourself to get there?

Well, a buddy of mine was bragging to me the other day about how he lost 51 pounds this year.

He’s in the best shape of his life.

And he did it without a gym membership or a fancy diet.

He didn’t even set a goal to lose the weight.

He’d tried doing that the last 5 years (with the goal of only 25lbs), and always gave up. So he knew he needed a different approach.

So, what goal did he set instead of losing weight?

Just this: To start exercising every day.

That’s it.

And, since he’d tried and failed before, he knew it had to be a simple exercise routine.

So simple, in fact, that he’d never, ever, have an excuse not to do it.

So incredibly, brain-dead easy that he could do it every day, without fail, and maybe even *enjoy* doing it.

  • 50 pushups.
  • 50 body-weight squats.
  • And a 1 miles walk.

Pretty easy, right?

And no special equipment or gym membership needed.

He could easily work this into his daily routine no matter what else was going on in his life.

It’s not very intense either.

But it didn’t need to be intense.

Consistency was the key.

He finally discovered that *consistent* daily actions – which he could completely control – provided way better results than focusing on one big goal (losing 25lbs) that he couldn’t directly control at all.

In less than one year, he more than *doubled* his initial goal – which he had always failed to achieve the old way.

So my point here is this:

Setting huge goals for yourself in 2019 might blow up in your face.

It’s just human nature.

We set a big goal, without a clear idea of how to reach it, and totally ignore the fact that we can’t actually *control* the outcome…

Then, when we don’t reach the outcome right away, we give up and feel like we’ve failed.

It’s way easier to focus on goals you *can control*.

It’s easier to stay motivated when your goal is to change one thing in your daily routine.

Because then every day is a success.

It pumps you up for the next day… and the next…

And before you know it, that consistent, daily action adds up to some major positive outcomes in your life.

So…

What big goals have you set for yourself in 2019?

Would your chances of success increase if you could break it down into a simple, daily routine that’s guaranteed to get you there (or beyond)… without all the pressure of focusing on the big goal itself?

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The “Whack-A-Mole” Approach To Personal Development

You ever catch yourself playing “Whack-A-Mole” with your bad habits?

Whenever a bad habit pops up in your life, you whack it with whatever personal development tool is available to you…

Only to have that habit pop back up somewhere else in your life.

So you take another whack at it, only to have two more bad habits pop up somewhere else.

It’s a losing battle.

And it never ends.

Because you’re only ever telling yourself what you *don’t* want to be doing.

But you have to be doing something. We have ~16 waking hours a day to fill with activity, so, without a clear vision of where you actually want to go, and what habits would help you get there, you’ll just keep falling back on whatever habits you had before.

The way out of this game is to stop chasing your bad habits all together, and start replacing them with good habits.

The problem for a lot of people is, when they realize this, they also realize that they’ve never given much real thought to what they actually want.

For anyone who spent their whole life thinking only in terms of what they don’t want, this is a whole new way of thinking.

So it requires practice, like any new skill does.

But, when you start reminding yourself to think in terms of what you want – instead of what you don’t want – that way of thinking becomes a habit in and of itself.

It’s a very good mental habit to have, too. By developing it, you’re already starting to set a clear direction for the rest of your life course.

It soon becomes easier and easier to know what you want in any situation, because you have a clearer understanding of your true motivations and passions.

And with that understanding comes clearer goals that actually motivate you and encourage you, subconsciously, to develop whatever habits you need to reach those goals.

Your subconscious mind will gladly offer up whatever other good habits you require, if you just give it a clear goal.

Then you can stop worrying about your bad habits, because they’ll simply be replaced by all the new, useful habits you begin to manifest in your daily life.

This also means, however, that you’ll be left hanging every time you achieve all your goals.

The only way to stay consistently on track, for life, is to have a life-long goal.

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Sticking to New Habits: Focus on the Payoff

Sticking to a new habit can feel like you’re punishing yourself…

Or it can feel like you’re setting yourself free…

All depending on how you choose to look at it.

A few years ago, when I decided to start going to the gym, it was tempting to talk myself out of it. After all, it felt like a lot of unnecessary work and pain at first. But I didn’t focus on the fact that I was making myself exercise.

Instead, I focused on the freedom I was giving myself to feel stronger, more energetic, and more alive. I kept myself motivated by focusing on the payoff, instead of the effort and discomfort required to get there.

And now, 5 years later, I’m healthier than I’ve ever been and I have way more energy than I would have if I had continued to sit at my desk all day every day and never exercise. I never allowed myself to think of going to the gym as a punishment or a chore. I always looked at it as an act of liberation. I was freeing myself from an unhealthy lifestyle. I was freeing myself from the decades of poor health, low energy, and eventual losing battle with heart disease that my father experienced before me, thanks to his poor diet and sedentary lifestyle.

And this is exactly the shift in mindset that Speedzen subliminal sessions use to keep you motivated to achieve your goals. They keep you focused on the benefits of your new habits instead of the discomfort caused by letting go of your bad habits:

  • Sticking to a new diet becomes a gift you’re giving to yourself, instead of being seen as a punishment or restriction.
  • Dropping an addiction feels like cutting off a ball and chain that’s been holding you back, instead of depriving yourself of pleasure.
  • Getting your home decluttered and keeping it that way stops feeling like a chore as you realize how much you’re decluttering your mind and emotions in the process.
  • And so on…

Making positive changes in your life is easier when you stay focused on the payoff, instead of the cost. And, it’s almost completely effortless when you can get your subconscious mind focused on the payoff as well.

This approach to motivation is one of the keys to the effectiveness Speedzen’s subliminal CDs.