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The 3-letter word that will kill your motivation

I’ve written a lot lately about the 4-letter word: ‘need.’

It’s a dangerous word.

We often use it when we don’t really need something and, in doing so, we program ourselves to feel needy and desperate.

And while desperation is a powerful motivating force… it also causes frantic emotions and sloppy thinking.

It’s far more effective to say that we *want* something, because, unless we’re literally going to die without it, “want” is simply the right word to use.

But, more importantly, the word “want” activates much more useful emotions: desire and a relaxed, focused motivation to reach our goal.

There’s another dangerous word I’ve been seeing people use a lot lately, though.

In fact, this other word packs so much demotivational power that hypnotists use it to put people to sleep.

It’s the single most used word in any standard hypnotic trance induction.

Just hearing this word, in the right context, can instantly make you let go, relax, and give up on exerting yourself entirely.

And saying this word to yourself, when talking about your goals, is like drilling a hole in your gas tank right before a long road trip.

It’s not quite as dangerous as “need,” but it’s up there.

Whenever you say this 3-letter word to yourself you’re basically telling yourself that you’re going to fail, before you even start.

You’re saying to your subconscious “Hey, this probably isn’t going to work, so let’s not put that much energy into it. And it’s okay to quit when things get difficult.”

And, of course, when you assume you will fail from the start, and don’t push hard to reach your goal, you’re going to fail and prove yourself right.

So what is this energy-draining, motivation-destroying, 3-letter word?

Try.

When you “try” to do something, you’ve already failed.

Yeah, I probably could have summed up this entire article with the famous Yoda quote, but…

“Do or do not, there is no try” doesn’t really paint the mental picture of the dire consequences that using this word in your self-talk will have for you.

And that’s where all of the most powerful words, good or bad, receive their power… from the pictures they paint in your mind whenever you use them… and the feelings that arise from those pictures.

The words we use to talk to ourselves, and create our mental imagery, are a form of ongoing self-hypnosis.

And most of us do it wrong until we learn to consciously observe and correct our self-talk.

Just like how saying you “need” something paints a subconscious mental image of imminent death, which leads to frantic emotions…

The same applies when you say “try,” and you’re painting a mental picture of inevitable failure.

On the other hand, when you simply decide to do something, and tell yourself that you’re going to do it, you paint the mental picture of doing that thing.

And then you do it.

And succeed.

Even if you fail a few times before you get there, it’s just part of the process of reaching your ultimate success.

You keep moving forward until you reach your goal.

But, if you’re only going to “try” to do it, you’ll quit the second things get tough, because you’re already operating on the mental picture of failure.

The best way to succeed at anything is to assume that success is inevitable.

So drop “try” from your vocabulary, at least when you’re talking about your bigger goals, and assume that you’re going to win at whatever you choose to do.

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“I Can’t See Myself Doing That”

I used to think this was a harmless figure of speech.

When someone is presented with a great idea…

Something that could really take their life, their career, or their business to the next level…

They say: “Sounds great, but I just can’t see myself doing that.”

It’s not a harmless figure of speech, though.

One of the first things you learn if you study NLP is that the language we use is very often a crystal-clear, and very literal representation of exactly what’s really going on in our mind’s eye.

And if you can’t see yourself doing something…

You can’t do it.

Simple as that.

If you can’t see yourself doing bigger and better things with your time and energy, then you won’t.

If you can’t see yourself doing the daily tasks that will get you where you want to be in life, then you’ll stay right where you are.

And it’s easy to see yourself right where you are.

You’ve been practicing a very long time. So long, in fact, that right where you are perfectly matches what you’ve been seeing yourself doing up until now.

And if you don’t like where you are, then it’s time to learn how to see yourself being somewhere else and doing something else.

Everything we do starts as an image in our mind.

Sometimes with a vague image that leads to a weak impulse to take some kind of half-hearted action.

And sometimes with a very clear image that leads to immediate and decisive action.

Learning to see yourself being exactly the person you want to be, clearly in your mind’s eye, is the most powerful skill you can ever develop.

Instead of allowing the images in your mind to be shaped by those Hollywood weirdos, or the constantly negative news, or any of the other forms of negative programming we’re constantly bombarded with…

You can take the steering wheel of your own subconscious mind into your own hands, and steer your life in the direction *you* choose.

All your moods, habits, actions and motivations remain under constant control of whatever mental movies are playing out in your mind.

So take control of those movies. Take back your life.

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What Are You Telling Yourself With Your Actions?

It’s amazing what you can achieve when you learn to communicate with your subconscious mind.

When you cease to be a stranger to the part of yourself responsible for all your motivation and creative problem solving…

…You become unstoppable.

You can set a goal, pass that goal to your subconscious through visualization and affirmations, and then work almost effortlessly towards attaining that goal because you have the full force of your subconscious resources at your disposal.

But, when it comes to affirmations…

Actions speak louder than words.

You can use all the positive visualization and affirmations in the world and still get nowhere if your conscious actions contradict the goal you’ve set.

  • If you set a goal to eat healthier but keep all the unhealthy food in your pantry, what you’re really telling your subconscious is that you’re just taking a break, and you’re keeping the junk food around for later. And you will, inevitably, get around to eating that junk food.
  • If you set a goal to boost your self-worth and act more confidently, but continue to hang out with people who don’t respect you and make you feel inadequate, you’re telling your subconscious that you don’t really deserve a sense of self-worth.
  • If you set a goal to learn a new skill but never get around to actually practicing that skill – if you instead watch TV or play video games – you’re obviously telling your subconscious where your true priorities are by what you choose to do in your spare time.

The bottom line is this:

You can achieve way more when your subconscious mind and your conscious mind are on the same page.

When you are consciously working towards a goal AND your subconscious mind is in alignment with that goal – when it’s helping you from behind the scenes – you will stay motivated, work harder, get more inspiration, handle new challenges with confidence, and solve complex problems with ease.

But, just as easily, you can sabotage all that progress whenever you consciously choose to act against the goal you’ve set.

When you tell your subconscious – through your actions – that you’re not really serious, it will simply stop helping. It will obey that new command without question or argument…

And all your positive affirmations and visualizations get thrown out as you find yourself right back at square one.

Something to think about if you ever find yourself seemingly sabotaging your own efforts:

“What are my actions saying about my true beliefs?”

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How Asking Better Questions Can Improve Your Life

We can never outperform our self-image.

If we can’t see ourselves doing something, then we can’t do it.

Simple as that.

But all of us have far more potential than we tend to imagine.

Physically, mentally, emotionally, creatively…

Our true limits far exceed what most of us ever actually achieve.

Because it’s never our true limits that stop us from moving forward.

Instead, the wall we hit when we strive to become better, faster, stronger, or more successful is…

What we can *see* ourselves accomplishing.

If you can’t see yourself living the life you want to live, you won’t even feel the motivation to try to get there in the first place.

So the real trick to success and personal growth is, and always has been, to first build a vision of what you want to achieve.

A strong vision of what you want, held in your mind’s eye, magnetizes every cell of your body towards achieving it. That vision causes you to dig deeper, push harder, and access power you didn’t even know you had until you removed the limitations of your own self-image by visualizing something better.

The more clearly you can see yourself doing the things you want to do, and living the life you want to live, the more motivated you will be to work towards it. You’ll begin to tap into that infinite well of spiritual energy that we can all access, but rarely do, all because the limits of your self-image are expanding and allowing you to let more of that creative, life-giving energy flow through your mind and body.

So…

How do you build a better vision of yourself?

Ask better questions.

Cool it with the “why’s”…

“Why do I always ____?”

“Why can’t I ever ___?”

“Why does ____ always happen?”

Those types of questions are asked from within your current image of yourself, so they can only ever affirm and strengthen your current self-image, along with all its false limitations.

Instead, ask questions to build up a vision of a life outside of your current self-image.

  • Where do I want to be in five years? – This immediately starts to paint a picture of a different reality, in a different place and time, detached from your current reality.
  • What am I doing there? – Now that mental picture begins to move and take on a life of its own as you let it play out in your mind’s eye.
  • Who is with me? – Other characters enter the movie, as a life-like story begins to unfold.
  • How did I get there? – And now the magic happens. Your subconscious mind can begin working backwards, bridging the gap between this new reality and your current reality.

And your self-image will automatically begin to expand and improve so that you can see yourself as the type of person who takes action, starting today, to begin walking across that bridge to the new reality you’ve envisioned.

By asking questions that create a mental movie *outside* of your current reality, you allow your creativity to work at its full potential, unchained from whatever self-limiting beliefs may have been holding you back up until now.

Instead of allowing your limited self-image to dictate what is or isn’t possible for you…

You allow your self-image to be reshaped and improved by your own limitless creative potential. You allow your self-image to become whatever it needs to be to achieve what you want.

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How To Weaponize Your Insecurities

Here’s a fun little trick you can use in those situations where your insecurities get the better of you.

You know the ones…

  • You want to ask for something, but you’re afraid you won’t get it.
  • You really want to speak your mind, but you’re afraid of rocking the boat, even though it’s killing you inside to remain silent.
  • You want to try something new and exciting, but you’re afraid you’ll make a fool of yourself.

Basically any situation where you could’ve made a major, positive change in your life… but you gave into fear instead.

Here’s what I do in those situations:

I picture myself at a fork in the road.

On the left is the future where I gave into my fear and did nothing.

So I hop in my little mental time machine and fast forward 5 years into that timeline.

From there, I look around at what my life has become (or NOT become) as a result of my past cowardice. I think back to the old me, standing at that fork in the road, and allow myself to feel whatever feelings come up: disappointment, anger, disgust, contempt…

Whatever feelings arise, I just let myself really feel them, enough so I can remember them when I return.

Then I hop back into the present.

And I repeat the process for the right hand path… the path where I did whatever I needed to do to get where I wanted to go.

I look around at what my life has become and I think back to the old me who made it all happen, with gratitude and respect, before returning to the fork in the road… in the present.

And…

Here’s the exciting part:

Now, instead of two vague options to choose from, I have two very real possible futures in my mind’s eye.

Do I go left… towards the future Jason who hates me and the world I’ve created for him?

Or do I go right… towards the future Jason who loves and respects me?

The choice is obvious when you frame your decisions this way.

And it’s impossible to ignore when you really flesh them out in your imagination like this, because…

What usually happens is, our insecurities keep telling us – here in the present – “Oh, no! What will other people think! You can’t do that!”

But now, thanks to this visualization exercise, you don’t really care what other people think because now…

You’re being judged by your future self.

Your insecurities are no longer a weapon that others can use against you in the present. Instead, they’re a weapon your future self can use to motivate you towards the better of two futures.

If one of those future selves absolutely hates you for being a coward, and the other loves you for being brave, that’s going to pack a helluva lot more emotional punch than whatever other people may or may not think of you in the present.

It’s incredibly effective.

Fun, too.

And just a small example of what you can do when you get great at visualizing.

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Actions Speak Louder Than Words

It’s amazing what you can achieve when you learn to communicate with your subconscious mind.

When you cease to be a stranger to the part of yourself responsible for all your motivation and creative problem solving, you become unstoppable.

You can set a goal, pass that goal to your subconscious through visualization and affirmations, and then work almost effortlessly towards attaining that goal.

But actions speak louder than words.

You can use all the visualization and self-hypnosis tools in the world and still get nowhere if your daily actions contradict the goal you’ve set.

In my last blog post I mentioned that if you set a goal to make a lot of money using the law of attraction but you steal all of the mindset tools you plan to use to get there, you’re telling your subconscious mind that resources are scarce. And you will never achieve a mindset of abundance.

I got several emails asking for more examples of how certain actions can negate the benefits of subliminals…

So here are a few big ones off the top of my head:

  • If you set a goal to eat healthier but keep all the unhealthy food in your pantry, what you’re really telling your subconscious is that you’re just taking a break, and you’re keeping the junk food around for later. And you will, inevitably, get around to eating that junk food.
  • If you set a goal to be more self-respectful and boost your confidence, but continue to hang out with people who don’t respect you and make you feel inadequate, you’re telling your subconscious that you don’t really deserve respect.
  • If you set a goal to learn a new skill but never get around to actually practicing that skill – if you instead watch TV or play video games – you’re obviously telling your subconscious where your true priorities are by what you choose to do in your spare time.

The bottom line is this:

You can achieve way more when your subconscious mind and conscious mind are on the same page.

When you are consciously working very hard towards a goal AND your subconscious mind is in alignment with that goal and helping you from behind the scenes, you will stay motivated, work harder, get more inspiration, handle new challenges with confidence, and solve complex problems with ease.

And subliminal CDs are a great way to get your subconscious mind working with you.

But they aren’t a magic bullet…

You still need to make conscious efforts to work towards your goal, while avoiding any actions that communicate mixed messages to your subconscious mind.

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Be Careful How You Talk to Yourself!

Have you ever tried to remember to do something by telling yourself “Don’t forget to ____”?

It’s funny how the subconscious mind processes any commands you give it…

While completely ignoring the “don’t”.

If I told you “Don’t think of your favorite food right now” your subconscious mind will already be serving up the sights, smells, and tastes of your favorite dish before your conscious mind even has a chance to fully process the sentence.

So it’s important to pay attention to the way you talk to yourself.

If you want to remember something, then tell yourself to remember.

If you want to stay calm in a stressful situation, tell yourself to remain calm. Because if you say something like “don’t freak out,” then you’re already well on your way to losing control.

Your subconscious mind is always at your beck and call.

It will do whatever you tell it to do.

And it can do pretty much anything you want it to do.

From reminding you about important tasks, to keeping you motivated to work on a difficult project, to controlling how you feel about yourself, and even solving seemingly unsolvable problems for you while you go about your daily life.

You just need to give it the right commands:

  1. Tell yourself what you want, instead of what you don’t want.
  2. Keep it simple and to the point. (The subconscious mind is *very* literal.)

And if you want help improving your internal dialogue, we have a large selection of subliminal sessions for pretty much any area of your life where you may have sabotaged yourself with negative self-talk up until now.
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